Give them their Favorite Gifts
The Art of Gift Giving…
Whether it is a birthday, an anniversary, or a holiday (like the quickly approaching Valentine’s Day), giving gifts can sometimes be overwhelming. We have thought all about gift giving- gifts we’ve loved, what is important to us when we receive a gift, and what we think about when shopping for a gift .
Here are a few key questions to ask yourself when shopping for gifts:
What are the moments or values your relationship is based on?
A mutual love of old fashioned recipes; both training for a 5k; or are you two cubicle buddies who can’t imagine the workday without the other? Your gift can honor, in a subtle or obvious way, the reasons your relationship is special! If you two grew up together, take a trip down memory lane and find an old movie or record they loved, or a some of their favorite candies they didn’t even know were still around.
Is there anything they need?
Have they moved recently? Are they redecorating a room in their house? Did they pick up a new hobby? Do they work on their feet all day? Let’s start thinking about “needs” in a broad sense. Your workaholic best friend might really just need more time in her day. There are gifts you can give them to help free up or organize their schedule, items or experiences that will make their life a little easier.
It is important to keep in mind that what you would want as a gift isn’t always what they want, no matter how close you two are. If you think back to past conversations and moments together, you might be surprised to find how quickly ideas pop up.
Is there anything they might appreciate more than a physical gift?
Receiving gifts isn’t everyone’s love language. Could they use or do they need a service? What about a home cooked meal for a new mom or a cleaning service for your cousin who hosted the family Christmas this year? Your sister may prefer that you babysit one night so she and her husband can have a date night!
One last note- don’t be afraid to use some humor!
Each Christmas, we exchange gag gifts with my in-laws. One year we gave my mother-in-law, a huge advocate of recycling, a big bag full of recyclables (clean, of course). She loved it! We all got a good laugh out of it and she was delighted to set it out on the curb that week.